Facebook Hiatus

It's time I take another break from facebook but this time for longer. If you need me then I am pretty sure you can find me...

It's getting hard for me to be on facebook because literally every time I log on I see another pregnancy announcement or perhaps even another baby is born. While I am happy for all of my friends, my heart can't take any more news. So since I can control the amount I take in from facebook I will be away for some time. I cannot control the zillions of belly bumps I see in the mall or the conversations I hear behind me in line about pregnancy etc. I hate that I feel like this and that I really need a break because it hurts to hear the news, but it's just the truth and I am just being honest with you. Not to mention the break would be good for many other reasons.

Continue to pray for us as we desire to become parents!

When talking about your kids...

I am reading the book Hannah's Hope by Jennifer Saake. Honestly, if we are close or if you know anyone going through infertility or loss challenges then you should pick up this great book. At the end of each chapter she has a section called 'Burden Bearers' which is specifically written for you and not the one struggling.

In the first chapter she made a great suggestion that everyone should learn from:

"When you are meeting someone new, don't start your conversation with 'So, do you have any kids?' While innocent enough, such questions can make me feel like a dear caught in your headlights. Instead try something open-ended such as 'Tell me a bit about yourself.' Anyone in a less-than-ideal life circumstance (unfulfilled desires for a spouse, unemployed, and so on) will appreciate such an approach."

I know that for certain our struggle has taught me to be cautious about how I say things or how often I brag or complain about my life circumstances. I am especially trying to be cautious about my marriage as I still have several friends who long to be married. While they are very happy for me, the last thing I want to do is talk about my marriage all the time.

So I guess today I want to share a burden bearer with you from my own perspective. For all I know, this might be one Jennifer shares later on in the book but I'm only at Chapter 4. So what I want to share with you is...

If I say to you that I want children please do not tell me that I can have yours if I want since they are driving you crazy. I will gladly take your kids and you can trade me for my circumstances, that's fine by me. I'd love to take your kids as my own. While I don't at all doubt that your kids are driving you crazy and you could use a date night or a break from your kids, your small little phrase makes a bottle of emotions explode within me. Please kindly say I love my kids and I hope you can experience the joy of parenthood soon. But please refrain from ever discouraging someone from having kids who says they want to have kids. If you are really needing a break then I would be happy to watch your kids for you so you can have a date night, but I can guarantee you don't really want to give up your kids. However, if you do we can surely arrange something.